Lol. I can do this shit in my sleep. You are correct, pin 87 doesn't get used at all with the single relay setup.
With the coil is unenergized (pins 85 & 86), pin 30 & 87a are connected. When you energize the coil (by turning on headlights) then pin 87a opens and 87 & 30 get connected.
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